1/6/2015 -1/13/2014 Same Sex Marriage in Florida is Legal!!

1/6/2015   It finally happened. Same sex couples can get married starting today in Florida. We have several friends that got married today, made the front news of the papers , were on the news and made history.Very Exciting. Vic and I are starting to plan for our October wedding...the date is yet to be determined.

I left this morning for work and drove by the Venice courthouse. There was a crowd out front. From US41 I could see the big rainbow flags and the large gathering by the front door (where they perform ceremonies at our court house) All of a sudden tears sprung to my eyes. I honked in approval and called Vic. My tears were not for myself. I really didn't plan on getting married again, my tears were for all of the couples that now don't have to feel like second class citizens ,my tears and emotions were for equality.  The first time I went to Sacramento to see Vic we went to a rally at the capital for Prop 8 and now here we are 7 years later able to get married in our own state! Video from that day :https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZOIWJXY-b0

1/13/2015   So , since last Tuesday we have looked at venues , come up with the kind of wedding we want, asked one of my dear friends to perform the ceremony, changed our date from October to November, Picked out and ordered our rings and have had endless discussions about all things wedding. It is so exciting! We both agree that we want a spiritual (not religious) ceremony surrounded by our friends and family that have supported us along the way and share in our journey.

Holy smokes there is a lot to do /consider when planning a wedding! My niece is getting married in December so I'm trying not to step on any toes and duplicate anything she may be doing for her wedding. Not sure if that is a real struggle or just something I've created in my brain but I think it's only respectful. I don't think I'd want a friend or family member having a wedding right before me with any of my ideas/plans etc. I think I'll talk to her and make sure she isn't feeling resentful.

I am not the most patient person and want it all planned and done like yesterday so this is not the easiest thing for me to do. I think once we nail down the venue/reception location I'll feel better. Oh who am I kidding...next it will be "once I order the invitations, or once I plan the menu, or order the cake " it's never ending. :)

I will try and not turn this blog into a never ending bridezilla diary but I can't promise anything ha!
When I get too crazy Vic is kind to remind me "It has only been legal for (fill in the blank number) of days.

Immediate Goals:
Get nails done before we get the rings!
Secure the location for the ceremony and reception.
Start on a fitness plan to get more lbs off by wedding day.

Enjoy my Pinterest wedding board! http://www.pinterest.com/floridaholly/my-big-gay-wedding-planner/

Day 18 of the 30 Day Blog Journal

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Day 18 my wedding or future wedding...

I have been married three times. My favorite line is that it took me three times until I realized being a lesbian was an option.

I am good friends with my ex's for the most part, the divorces were just as much me as it was them. I honestly have always been attracted to women but did not really think about having a woman as a partner until about five years ago. I had had girlfriends but also boyfriends or husbands being my main relationship. When that changed and I put the woman in my life first it was a real eye opener for me.

Another wedding isn't something I think about much because it's not legal in Florida. My partner and I are just like a married couple in many ways..we share a home, bank accounts,pets, etc. When I had hip surgery she stayed in the hospital room with me every night until I went home. Not all hospitals allow that, luckily mine did.

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