We walked down to her space , it was a two room office/apartment in the Harmony Hall. There was not much furniture in the space. In the back room that we went and sat down there was a metal table and three chairs. A futon sat in the other side of the small room.
There was a pad of paper, a pen and a box of tissues sitting on the table. She sat across from me and immediately began talking. I wasn't sure where to look or what to do with my hands. I was very uncomfortable. I just held my hands in my lap and listened. When she was right about something I said Yes, or nodded.
The first thing she said was that it was a gentleman coming through. A glass is half full type of man. Even if he wasn't doing well he would say that he was. He didn't want people to worry about him. Ok that is pretty impressive I thought. You could not get more accurate when describing my dad.
The other things may not be in the order she told me..as I mentioned above things have been coming to me all day as I have been thinking about it. I'm so glad that Vic was with me so we can help each other.
From what I gathered from Pauline, my dad was having a conversation with her and showing her things about his life, showing pictures, telling her stories, memories, or things to let me know that he was around me.
She mentioned a family gathering coming up that did not have anything to do with holidays. I let her know it was just passed;my nieces wedding. He told her that he was there. He heard us talking about him, and he was there watching the day with us.
She mentioned him showing her a picture of him in a hat, fishing. I have this picture and will have to go find it now.
Also him being serious playing cards, and a photo of us at an amusement park or something on a ride. I think that one is of us on a sled.
Other things she mentioned: very responsible, always on time. Not one to take risks and didn't like it much when people he cared about took risks. She felt like he was friendly and wanted to make everyone comfortable. Love of music, Talked alot about my dogs, he wasn't really around the dachunds much but he nailed their personalities and proved that he is at the house watching over us. He mentioned that he walks now, and can breathe, he no longer had the physical body, he's more like a bird and flies all over the place. Family is very important and he checks in on all of us. he travels to places he has never been as well as places he has. He doesn't stay in one place very long. He checks in on those family members that have passed but he doesn't stay with anyone person or persons for very long.
he never saved much money. He wanted to but just didn't work out that way. He is surrounded by animals and has a special connection with them. As well as children. He is a trickster. He loves music. She mentioned a close male figure like a brother that he was really bonded with (no idea who this may be..he did not have a brother or a best friend that I know of) she said he didn't like to sit still , was very creative and liked to work with his hands. She smiled alot and said he was very joyful and full of joy. He showed her roses, I told her that he gave me a rose bush for mother's day and that we both loved and had roses.
Vic asked her to ask him if it hurt for him to pass. He said he was conflicted inside because he didn't want to leave everybody but the light was there and he decided that it was time for him to go. It was peaceful and not painful and a decision that he was in charge.
She mentioned that his parents were from up north. he was showing her dark furniture and a lot of dust collectors. The words she used was stuff all over the house that needed to be dusted. I told her that he called that dust collectors and he was probably talking about Cyndi and all her decorative stuff all over the house.
She saw him on water on a boat. Loving nature. I know that I am forgetting things..I'll add to this as i remember. :)
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I know that joyfulness was the intent of this, but I am crying and crying... love you. I wish i could go there and ask if Bobby is OK..
Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like it was a pretty amazing experience for you. I'm so glad you found peace from your visit.
I watched a documentary about a similar place in Maine and I would love to go.
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