What Holly Has Seen

I am moving some of my notes over from facebook, I wrote this in May..

We all have "those friends". People that thrive on drama and BS in their lives. Life is full of choices. You can choose to be happy, sad, angry...Much of your life is a series of choices. Your career is often reflective of your choice of education. Your marriage or lack of is a choice of relationships, your church is a choice of your religion and beliefs and so on...


One thing about getting older, hopefully we also get wiser. You know what you want in your life as much as what you don't want. You've seen your friendships grow, fade and become stronger.



For me personally I know that negative energy just promotes more negative energy. I choose to surround myself with positive and can see a difference in how I feel when I do so. I am and always have been a "glass half full" kind of girl. I will see the rewards before I see the downsides to most situations. My life is not perfect, I have made many mistakes and poor choices but they have made me who I am today and shown me a lot! I will gladly wear my rose colored glasses, thank you very much!



As wonderful as I think Facebook is for re-connecting and staying in touch it also shows me almost on a daily basis the negative energy people put off as well as the positive. There are just those people that always have a happy message and good outlook on life...even when I know about their personal struggles , it gives me such respect for them not to get sucked down into the pity party or negative posts about how unfair life is. Something I learned very early on...life is not fair. So you either deal with it or you have an unhappy time of it.



Life has enough drama on a daily basis...must we really add more? How many times will you be lied to and keep listening to anything they have to say after that? What is that old saying..."trick me once shame on you, trick me twice shame on me?" Why would you even expect a different outcome?



Life is heartbreaking enough with losing parents, friends, pets, children..Why welcome more heartbreak in ? If you friends, partners, spouses, family don't respect you , respect yourself enough to walk away. We are the co-author of our lives. We control the next chapter. Your past may not have been all lollipops and roses but your future can be anything you want it to be.



On that note I'm out to create a fantastic Tuesday! May you all smile more than frown, laugh more than cry and give yourselves big hugs just for making it through Monday!